Caution: You should never use a binding spell lightly – and I believe never to bind a person, but rather their behaviour.
Unfortunately our family found itself in need of a binding spell recently when the spiteful behaviour of another became a bit too much for us to bear. Sometimes it happens. Through misunderstanding, or sheer nastiness, we come up against people who seem for one reason or another to want to do us harm. Bullies abound – we see them in the news every day. And I don’t mean bullies in the sense we seem to be hearing the word used more and more nowadays to describe people just not getting along. That’s not bullying. But behaviour designed to hurt or harm, malicious rumours, vindictiveness, spitefulness, and just plain being nasty – behaviour that is consistent, regular, ongoing and intended to do you harm.
When you’ve tried all else to get the person to stop, sometimes a binding spell can help. And you should only attempt it if you HAVE tried everything else to get the person to stop.
Whilst I firmly believe we cannot influence another person’s behaviour directly and that all we can change is our attitude to it, sometimes directing your energy in this way helps achieve that outcome.
The internet is full of binding spells – some a little scary and malicious on their own. Remember if you are going to go down this path, your intention should be around binding the person’s behaviour, not the person themselves … any spell working like this is messing with someone’s will and you need to be very careful your intention is good and not to do harm. Always remember the Rede:
‘An ye harm none, do what ye will.’
(‘Will’ meaning ‘intend’ – not ‘whatever you like’.)
So here’s what we did. This is best done during a waning moon as the energy is moving away from you.
What you need:
- A stick
- An image of the person or their name written on a piece of paper
- Black thread/ribbon
- A candle (many say black because of the waning moon connection and its use in breaking up negative thought forms. I used red for this because of its connection to the root chakra, grounding energy and its connection to working lovingly on the physical plane.)
After casting circle or calling your goddesses or however else you protect yourself or define your ritual space, ground yourself and remove all negative energy and thoughts. Sending them into Mother Earth is always good. Light your candle.
Focus your intention. Your intention should always be for the other person’s good – not to do them harm. Remember you are binding their behaviour, not them personally.
Take your stick and place the image of the person, or the paper with their name on it, onto the stick, holding it in place.
While reciting the below three times, wind the black thread/ribbon around the stick – if using an image of the person begin at their mouth and move up the stick then back down the stick so that by the time you have finished reciting the spell three times, the stick is covered by the thread/ribbon – or at least the image or paper with their name is completely covered.
[name] I bind you from behaviour intended to do me harm.
Spiteful, vindictive, hurtful, gossiping, and lying behaviour.
I bind you from [specific action].
I wish you peace, love and the ability to see and speak only truth.
(repeat 3 times)
Once the stick is completely bound with the thread/ribbon say:
By my voice carrying the sound;
[name] your behaviour is bound.
It is done. So mote it be.
Then throw the stick in the fire or bury it. You can also place it in the freezer (though personally I prefer to burn it so the intention is carried to the universe via the smoke). Send the person the focus of your binding loving energy, wishing them peace and the ability to find their higher good. Ground your energy again, thank any beings you called upon to help in your ritual work, blow out your candle, and open your circle or otherwise open your ritual space as you normally would do.
You may also wish to take a shower to help cleanse yourself.
Quick and Simple Binding
Another binding method I have used is to simply write the person’s name on a piece of paper and toss it in the back of the freezer. Others I know have put the name in a small bag with a little water before placing in the freezer, or putting the paper in the bottom of an ice cube tray before filling with water and putting in the freezer.
This is a quick and effective binding method and pretty quickly stops the behaviour. It should be repeated if the behaviour is repeated.
When I used this many years ago the person the subject of the binding ended up moving back to their home state many hundreds of kilometres away – unlikely to be able to cause any more harm from that distance!
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